Stop Living in the past.

This is easy to think and very hard to do. I wish there was a Reset Button to let everything in the past go away. But unfortunately there is no such thing. But you can work on it and when you are focused and busy with your goals you will have no time for past.

Remember life is short. Well Yes or No. If you are not living life just letting it go and let the opportunities pass you, yes then it is long and draggy. But if you are looking to do better, you will not have enough time for it. There are no limits, you can do heaps and contribute to the society.

When I say doing better it’s not about money, it’s about following your dreams doing the things you want to do. Sometimes getting started is the hardest part. You know what you want to do and don’t know where to begin because you are holding on to all the old thoughts about people, what are they going to say that I am doing this. You should not worry about anyone because everyone struggles in life every now and then. And the start is not always easy, but it teaches you a lot.

Remember those people you are worried about are not going to pay your bills. You have to do whatever it takes. If you have a friend or family that is negative and it is affecting you and your health, you need to get away. Because it is going to affect you and it’s wasting your energy, when you are trying to help someone who doesn’t want to change.

Sometimes people do wrong to you and you give them another chance and the chances are very high of them doing the same thing again, because some people learn the hard way. Friends, relationships are important but nothing is more important than your health.

If your past is destroying you, you need to let it go. Think of life as a gift, everyday you wake up it’s a blessing. Like everyone else you get 24 hours and it all depends what you are going to do with that time.

How past destroys people

If you are holding on to the past when someone treated you bad and made you feel worthless, it’s a type of abuse. No one has the right to say that to anyone, they have no idea what you have been through or what you are going through because of them. If someone doesn’t appreciate you you need to start your journey without them. If someone says something bad to you that doesn’t mean anything. It shows their character and you should not pay attention to that. If someone is treating you bad they are pushing you away, it’s not your loss it’s their loss.

But some people are really sensitive and whatever you say to them, they take it to heart. Be careful what you say to anyone, control your anger. People have the habit of taking their anger out on others, it is not good. It can hurt someone really bad. If you can not say anything nice don’t say anything.

It takes years to build the trust of friendship and anger can destroy it all in a minute.

What can we do

With the world changing in every way possible, every one is in rush and aggressive. We all need to calm down and be nice to each other.

If something is really bothering you, speak to the person and they will listen. Make sure you keep the conversation anger free. Ask and you Shall receive. With love and politeness you can get help even from strangers. We people are social animals, we love to help each other. Make it your goal every day to help a stranger, help someone cross the road, offer someone a cold drink, ask if someone need a help when they look lost or something that you come across.

We all hold back sometimes, maybe we are shy, may be we are scared what will be the reaction? But you know what it’s so rewarding when you help others, it gives you the confidence to do good. This is how your life gets back on track.

Something might help you

From your previous experience, you might get scared and not trust certain people anymore. But judging a particular type of people is wrong. I had the same experience, I worked for a person in the kitchen he was very rude. So I ended up quitting that job. But after that I was being careful when I came across people who were from that guy’s country, thinking they might be the same.

I became a friend with a guy from same place that mean guy was from and I shared that story with him. First thing he said was do not worry about what happened in the past, it’s gone don’t hang on to it. And he said don’t judge the whole country because of a bad experience with just one person.

That was a big lesson for me. I treated everyone the same. And after that I never had a problem with anyone. Remember treat others the way you want to be treated.

What can you do about the Past?

Life is a journey, you go through ups and downs, it is a journey you need to learn to enjoy it as much as you can because we are not here for long. So we can’t hold on to the past and not live in the moment.

Whatever you experience in life, good or bad comes your way to teach you. Not everything that happens and everyone you meet may not be good. But that’s part of the journey. You learn from it and move on.

It’s all about moving forward. Bringing balance in life is very important, if you are going through tough times remember This Too Shall Pass.